I’ve seen a lot of sad things since becoming paralyzed, and I’m not just talking about my own personal experiences. I’m talking about what I’ve seen happen to people I’ve met along this journey: divorce, an ultimately nasty consequence of an acquired disability. And I’ll say it right now: it’s not fair. No, it’s not fair at all.
Nobody likes divorce. It costs a lot of money, it wastes a lot of people’s time and even worse, it drains your emotional reserve like an annoyingly hungry vampire. It takes a lot to bounce back from a divorce, and this is especially true when it happens because someone becomes disabled.
The whole “in sickness and in health” thing is a lot harder to follow in real life than most people could ever imagine. No one plans for something devastating to happen but it does, and the stats are not good for marriage survival when a life-altering disability occurs. Eighty-five percent of the time these couples don’t make it, and it’s sad to watch from the sidelines.
Why they fail is easy to understand: the transition can be just too hard for some people to adjust to. Some don’t have the emotional endurance