Jay Davis sits in the center of rehab buddies who called themselves the Quad Squad.

Do you ever find yourself frustrated that you cannot do something someone else around your injury level seems to do with ease? It is a common struggle for many of us. Even if a diagnosis deems two people the same, when you throw in complete or incomplete injuries, body type, height and overall strength, no two spinal cord injuries are entirely alike. To compare is part of being human, though. After injury, we relearn who we are, and judging ourselves based on how we think we compare with others is a big way to evaluate our performance and place in the world.

Given the unique ways our bodies function after injury, it’s simple to match yourself unfairly and feel deficient. There is a fine line between struggling for independence because of what you see others doing and making safe choices that are right for your body and situation. Figuring the best way forward is a constant consideration after paralysis — sometimes we choose the smart path, a