MS and Divorce: divorce when disabled

Many unhappy couples stay together for the sake of their children, and it can be especially hard to leave a marriage when you have a disability. I put up with an emotionally abusive relationship for years for the sake of my children, enduring being manipulated into believing I was worthless as a wife, a mother and a person.

Two years after finally filing for divorce, I’m a single mom with multiple sclerosis and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, and more importantly, my self-esteem and my relationship with my two sons are stronger than ever. But it was a long and painful road to get here.

Ignored Warning Signs

Before I met Michael, I wasn’t interested in getting married or having children. My relationship with him changed all of that. I was diagnosed with MS right after we got married and just the fact that he didn’t bolt made me love him more.

The emotional abuse started while we were still dating, and I didn’t see it at the time. There were many red flags — the anger, the cruel words, the shaming — but I was so in love and wanted to be